I Do…er, I Don’t?

From http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ulterior-motives/200901/good-sex-is-good-relationships

I came across an article today titled, “Is Marriage Good for your Health?” written by Tara Parker-Pope of The New York Times. When people ask me about marriage, I tell them that I’m not sure I believe in it. They immediately ask me my age and then proceed to reassure me that I’m just young and that “I’ll get there.” Maybe I will and maybe I won’t, only time will tell. What I do know, having shared an apartment with a long-term boyfriend in the not too distant past, is that living with or even dating a guy often takes a toll on your waistline. He eats more than you do, eats more often than you do, doesn’t gain weight as easily as you do and doesn’t exercise nearly as much you do. Plus, he may wine and dine you, leaving less time for exercise. Yet you adjust your eating habits and lifestyle to match his. Not because you have to, but because you love him and want to co-exist in a relaxed, happy environment. Lauren Conrad calls this the “boyfriend layer.” Unfortunately, your body has different needs than his and overeating and lying around watching sports or playing video games will eventually take a toll.

It’s important to remember that it’s not him that needs to change, but you who needs to maintain your routines. OK, a little less beer and little more exercise wouldn’t kill him, but that’s not the point. You need to continue to eat well and exercise despite what he does or doesn’t do.

1.) Be sure to sure to make your own plate to control portion size. Or, ask him to be aware that you can’t eat as much as him and to serve accordingly.

2.) Turn down that second beer while watching a movie. I kept my own bottle of wine, so I wouldn’t be stuck with heavy, filling beer. Wine is by far the “healthiest” alcohol (meaning least caloric and with some health benefits) you can consume.

3). If you have trouble resisting sweets, ask him not to eat them in front of you. Or, set a limit on how many you can eat a week. Whatever it takes to keep you from eating what and when he does.

4.) Continue to be active. Go for long walks or take him to the gym with you. A couple that’s active together, stays together (or so I’d like to think!). Getting out and getting your blood flowing will make you enjoy the quiet moments even more.

No matter how serious your relationship, you should always make time for yourself and what makes you happy. Finding ways to compromise or include your significant other is a great when it works out, but you’re not always going to agree on everything. Maybe you like to run and he’s more of a biking or swimming kind of guy. Neither of you should give up your routines for the other. The same goes for food. You don’t have to eat pizza and wings just because he does. Cook/prepare what you like and keeps you trim. He can join in or make his own meals! Bottom line, don’t lay your healthy lifestyle on the relationship altar. You won’t be happy and neither will he.

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